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sexual-purity1Why do we always act surprise when people come up and confess they are struggling for their sexual purity or they are desperately fighting for it?  Why do we always pretend like nothing is wrong?  Why do we always close our ears, even our hearts, to their pain and struggles?  Why do we always act like we don’t even care and just easily say to them that some issues are more important compared to theirs?  Something like, “Just learn to deal with it!” or “You’ll get over it!”  I mean, really, why?  Why be so conservative?  Why be so quiet?  “Ssshh!  Let’s not talk about that in public.”  “Ssshh!  Not for now, you won’t even understand.”  Why do we always ignore them when it is very obvious they are struggling to achieve purity?  SEXUAL PURITY!

I wrote in one of my post that we, humans, have this “The Art of Compromising.”  One of them is about our sexuality.

It goes like this,

”  2. SEX – “You can joke about it, but you can never have a serious talk about it.”
“What? We’re talking about sex? Bleep! Quiet. Everyone’s gonna hear you.” We, human beings have this code called,“Sexual Code of Silence.” One book says that this code states that, “it’s okay to joke about sex or even lie about it, but other than that, it’s your solemn duty (as a male) to keep silent whenever a serious discussion about sex takes place.”  Sometimes, people will evaluate a film, saying, “There’s no sex. Just some crude jokes, and that’s no big deal.” On the contrary, Ephesians 5:4 says crude joking is “out of place.” That’s the culture we must change. The reality is, we, guys are sexual beings. We are created with it. It’s a part of us. We deserve to know what’s right and true about our sexuality so we can have the greatest chance to have fantastic sexual relationships with the person we marry. Sex is a precious and enjoyable gift from God inside marriage. So, having crude jokes about sex is humiliating or dishonoring the Maker of sex. John Stott explains, “To joke about them (God’s gift including sex) is bound to degrade them; to thank God for them is the way to preserve their worth as the blessings of a loving Creator.” We shouldn’t be ignorant about this matter. We should integrate our sexuality along with the integration of our spirituality and other aspect of our lives.   ”

Sexual immorality is everywhere.  Pornography is even considered as an art form.  Fornication.  Homosexuality.  Solo sex or masturbation.  Early engagement to sex.  Wrong-timed relationship.  Early pregnancy.  Relationship driven by lust.  Sexually-transmitted diseases.  Broken lives.  Broken relationships.  Degraded morale.  Suicidal spirit.  Lost.  DEATH! (You still think I’m exaggerating? Check this out, Every Young Man’s Battle Trailer)  They are everywhere.  Destroying the lives of God’s children.  Blinding our generation that, “what we see is all we get, so we should take much of it, there’s nothing left.” – Lacey Sturm.  They’re eating up the future God has prepared for them.   These things make the m believe a lie that there’s no more hope, no salvation, no redemption.  There’s no other option but to continue what they’ve started — to continue being soaked in to sexual immorality.

Now tell me, why do we have to be quiet about this matter?  Why keep on ignoring?  Why be so conservative?  Let us start making a stand. Let us open up or eyes, our ears, and our hearts to their needs.  Let us comfort them.  I am encouraging you, guys, to open up your lives to them and start sharing the truth that, still, there is hope.  That there is a God who is so willing, so eager, so excited to help them and save them from their sinking sand.  The love they are looking from somebody else is nothing compared to the love they will get from God.  The love of God changes us.  It is forgiving.  It is exceeding.  It is abounding.

Let us start making a stand.  Let us not ignore, instead, be more sensitive and attentive to their needs.  God’s love is what they need.  We are called for this.  Advocates of Purity.  Sharer of Good News.  Spreader of God’s Love.

Let us desire to be part of somebody else’s redemption!

It doesn’t surprise me when people, especially guys, come up to me and confess they are struggling to fight for their sexual purity.  It just hurts my heart to see them face those difficult times.  The mere fact they open up to someone they are struggling to fight for their purity takes SO MUCH COURAGE.LRTos

Accountability groups or prayer partners of same sex do help to achieve sexual purity.   For a guy, this should be a male friend, perhaps someone older (also respected inside and out of the church) and someone who can encourage them (you) in the heat of the battle.  Are we that kind of persons?  We better be!

I want to quote what Fred Stoeker said in the book (which I can lend to you) “Every Young Man’s Battle.”

He said,

“This is why many young men fighting for sexual purity seek support in a men’s Bible study group or a smaller accountability group with one or two other men.  Having a safe place to discuss this tough issue often results in an honest exchange , although getting there can be awkward.  (Another drawback of being a male is that we don’t verbalize our feelings very well.)  Honest sharing must occur in these relationships.  Tough questions must be asked, and true answers given.”

That’s why I am writing this one, not just for those people who are fighting for their sexual purity, but this is mainly for those people who understand and who are ready to help and lend a hand to other people.

I wrote in one of my blogposts, “Intercession: Consistent Christianity”, the reason why we have to help and pray for those people (and even for ourselves) who are fighting for their purity.

I wrote,

“God desires for us a pure life. A life that is blameless. For we are God’s holy people. God is concerned with the pureness of our heart, minds and bodies. Ephesians 5:3 states, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” Did you know that in nearly every book of the New Testament, we are commanded to avoid sexual impurity? That shows that God is really concerned with our purity. Let us never tolerate the spirit of lust inside the church. “Nevertheless, I have this against you: You tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophet. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality and the eating of food sacrificed to idols.” (Revelation 2:20).

Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

Psalm 138:3 also says, “When I called, you answered me; you made me bold and stouthearted (courageous).”

Isn’t it amazing to think that God is so much excited to answer man’s prayer and to save them from their quick sand.  That we can part of God’s miraculous deeds in their lives.  That we can help them to be in God’s solid rock.

Again, let me say this.  We are called to be advocates of purity.  Let us not reject that call.  This is an encouragement to take a stand.  SEXUAL PURITY!