Archive for November, 2012

“THE ART OF COMPROMISING”

“So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” – James 4:17

“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.”John 14:15

“Here is a call for the endurance of the saints, those who keep the commandments of God and their faith in Jesus.”Revelation 14:12

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Our school is 30minutes away from home that’s why I have so much time to spend thinking about so many things while I ride jeepney.  One morning, I was preparing my uniform for school then I realized that my polo had stain on it.  I said, “Oh boy!  I wouldn’t wear anything that I don’t feel comfortable about.”  Then ideas had started to come from afar.  COMPROMISE!  “What are the common compromises that I make?”  I mean, really, my own compromises.

One book that I read states that, “Compromise is a killer that seems so innocent in the beginning.  Yet when you compromise and do a small thing you know isn’t right, it doesn’t stay small and end there.  It becomes easier and easier to choose the wrong path the next time around.”  It’s true.  It’s impossible to stop a habit if you wouldn’t decide to stop it now.  You can say that it would be the last but you won’t be able to do it.  Compromising is an easy way out from accepting that you’re sinning.  It always defends itself.  It always aims to blame others.  It always wants to zap the energy out of you because you are expected to put up a binder to hide yourself from corrections and rebukes.  That’s why compromising is the first sign of the hidden power of deception over you.  We will discuss about it in a while.  So, here it goes.  My list of a young man’s compromises.

1.  OUTFIT –  “If I don’t feel good about it, I won’t wear it.”
I actually don’t consider this one as a compromise. But then the idea started with it that’s why I put it on the list. It’s true. If you feel uncomfortable with the clothes or dress, you won’t definitely wear. It seems like something’s gonna come out or someone’s pinching you from the back. It seems like you’re loosing your self-confidence and you want it back. You just don’t feel good. That’s why girls have the most problems regarding with what they wear. They spend hours on their closet to pick their attire.  1 Timothy 2:9 says, “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.”  This one really applies to them. If they don’t feel good about it, they won’t wear it.

2. SEX – “You can joke about it, but you can never have a serious talk about it.”
“What? We’re talking about sex? Bleep! Quiet. Everyone’s gonna hear you.” We, human beings have this code called, “Sexual Code of Silence.” One book says that this code states that, “it’s okay to joke about sex or even lie about it, but other than that, it’s your solemn duty (as a male) to keep silent whenever a serious discussion about sex takes place.” Sometimes, people will evaluate a film, saying, “There’s no sex. Just some crude jokes, and that’s no big deal.” On the contrary, Ephesians 5:4 says crude joking is “out of place.” That’s the culture we must change. The reality is, we, guys are sexual beings. We are created with it. It’s a part of us. We deserve to know what’s right and true about our sexuality so we can have the greatest chance to have fantastic sexual relationships with the person we marry. Sex is a precious and enjoyable gift from God inside marriage. So, having crude jokes about sex is humiliating or dishonoring the Maker of sex. John Stott explains, “To joke about them (God’s gift including sex) is bound to degrade them; to thank God for them is the way to preserve their worth as the blessings of a loving Creator.” We shouldn’t be ignorant about this matter. We should integrate our sexuality along with the integration of our spirituality and other aspect of our lives. (Don’t worry, I will post new entry regarding this matter!)

3. CHEAT – “As long as I won’t get caught, I would still do it.”
“Oh! You cheated with your girlfriend? That’s awful. Naah! That’s cool.” Cheating is not just about cheating with your girlfriend or boyfriend, it’s about the everything we do. Cheating with your exams, with your parents, with your friends. EVERYTHING. “No one’s gonna see me, it would be the last. Naah! Kidding. I would still do it.” Webster says that, “Cheating is the getting of reward for ability by dishonest means.” You cheat because you get something. You get reward in a wrong way. You cheat because there’s pleasure and when there’s pleasure, it becomes difficult to restraint yourself from cheating. We better stop. From the smallest kind of cheating to the biggest. Proverbs 11:1 says, “The LORD hates cheating, but he delights in honesty.” Remember, cheating is still a sin so there’s no excuse for it.

4. PRIDE – “I won’t do anything until he/she does the first move.”
Boom! Shall I kill myself right now? It’s the hardest thing to do, removing off your pride so that life would be better, putting on the plain you instead of wearing your reputation. Just take it off, your pride. It messes me up so it would happen to you also. Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.” Quit defending yourself. Accept that you’re wrong, ask for forgiveness and forgive also then be good and real to everyone.  Take a quick look at the word PRIDE.  The middle letter is “I” which simply means that when you put on your pride, the center of our life is yourself.  Your life is not about you.  It’s about God.  It’s about how you will use your life to magnify the greatness of our God.  Our life should become reflectors of His glory, not absorbers of His glory.  Remember, self-protection is a hindrance to true fellowship, an obstacle to genuine friendship.

5.  ADDICTION – “As long as I am enjoying it, I won’t stop doing it.”
This one is actually a broad topic. It can summarize everything that is written in here. You can be addicted to smoking, to drinking alcoholic beverages, to work (workaholic), to shop (shopaholic), to online gaming, to social networking and even to sex (sex addict). Addiction is a stronghold (fortress, where you feel comfortable about, where there is pleasure), a possession maybe. You enjoy bad things because there’s satisfaction. It provides you with the gratification you need. When you smoke, you feel cool, you feel hip. When you drink, it feels like you take a break from all of your problems, it boosts your spirit to get along with your life. When you commit sex outside marriage, it gratifies and satisfies your sexual needs. But then the truth is, addiction would do no good on you. All of those satisfactions and gratifications are temporary, only for a moment. In the end, it would damage you. It creates distance away from God. When you sin and keep those addictions, you will just make your distance from God longer. Isaiah 5:11 says, “Woe unto them that rise up early in the morning, that they may follow strong drink; that continue until night, till wine inflame them!” When you become addicted to something, it would be really hard to get along with the Holy Spirit again.

6. FAKE REPENTANCE – “God is a great God. I could do it one more time. He will forgive me, anyway.”
Oh yes! You can relate to this. We all know the bible verse that applies to this, 1 John 1:9, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” Here’s the thing, “Is it for real?” I mean, “Do we confess because we really beg for forgiveness and we acknowledge our nothingness before God?” Or, “Do we just quote that Bible verse to have an escape from our wrongdoings?” You know, there’s a thin line separating foolishness and wisdom. Are we for real? Let us not waste the forgiveness and grace and mercy from God. Over and over and over again, we commit the same mistake. We keep on sinning and sinning. If we ask for His forgiveness, let us try our best not to sin again. Let us keep on being good. If we love God, we should know the truth and stop sinning. As Ru dela Torre says, “We stop sinning not because we are afraid of breaking His rules but because we are afraid of breaking His heart.”

7. PLEASING PEOPLE – “If they don’t like it, I won’t pursue it.”
Alex and Brett Harris, from their book Do Hard things,  state that, “Our mission as Christians is not to fit in. It is to be faithful on what the Bible says. It is to take a stand.” It is our duty, our mission to make known or famous the name of the Lord. Our mission is only to please God. To make Him proud on everything that we do. If we focus our attention towards other, we will be so distracted. I have this mindset, “Quit pleasing everyone. Critical people do exist. Pleasing people will keep you uptight and indecisive. It’s not about me. It’s not about us. It’s not about them. It’s all about God.” When you focus your attention only to God, you will not be distracted. You will just aim to always give your best because you acknowledge your nothingness before God. So, who deserves our best and extravagant worship? It’s God. Only Him. My goal right now is to hear these sweetest words from God, “Well done, good and faithful servant! Come and share your master’s happiness!” (Matthew 25:23).

There you have it. Here are just some of the most common compromises we make everyday. We better not make them. But there is one more compromise that is very difficult to remove, our Mañana Habit or Procrastination, “If I can do it tomorrow, I won’t do it today.” So real! I would rather sleep the whole day than bending my muscles to work. Which is wrong! We all better change. “Lazy people want much but get little, but those who work hard will prosper.” (Proverbs 13:4)

Compromise is the first sign of deception. When you compromise and make it as your daily habit, it is already a stronghold, you are being deceived by your actions.

“THE HIDDEN POWER OF DECEPTION”

Deception is actually more dangerous than temptation. If you’re a Christian already and you fall into temptation, there will be guilt and shame feeling which will eventually lead you to repent and ask for forgiveness. On the other hand, deception is deceiving, of course. The word “deceive” means, from Webster, “to cause to accept as true or valid what is false or invalid.” It’s clear. To make the wrong thing seems like right. To accept something as true even though it’s not. You can know that you are already being deceived by your sinful acts if you make reasons such as, “There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s good actually. It’s okay. This will be the last. It’s only the first time. Don’t worry, we’re Christians already, we know how to handle this.” You see! That’s the clear picture. Don’t compromise. Don’t be deceived. Search yourself. Think again. It’s time to change your game plan.

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